"From where did he learn all this? He is not showing any of my good character."

This is a thing that all parents say about their child. But we must realize a fundamental truth: Children are not people who learn by listening to us. They are our CCTV.

Children learn by watching their parents. Whatever we do, that is what children copy.

The Mirror Effect

If we are people who shout, the child also learns the behavior of shouting. If we possess calmness, they learn to behave calmly.

Consider this scenario: A father watching TV at 10 PM tells his child, "Why are you watching TV here? Go lie down and sleep."

We can think about this ourselves. A behavior that we do not practice ourselves, a child will not learn by looking at us.

Handling Emotions and Stress

How we handle our stress will determine the emotional stability our child receives. If we are people who shout loudly or scold others when we are angry, the child observes and learns the nature of getting angry and scolding from us.

We often tell the child:

● "Doing that won't make it right."

● "You are unable to do this."

● "You are a fool."

Scientific studies say that such negative statements we use with children remain very deep in their minds for more than 10 years.

Modeling Healthy Habits

The healthy habits we wish for our children to learn will only be picked up by them if we demonstrate them in our own lives. For example, the habit of waking up early, the habit of exercising regularly, and punctuality in life.

This applies to our daily routines as well. Take, for instance, not using mobile phones while eating food. If we parents are doing it, we should never do it in front of the child. We cannot forcefully teach them not to talk or watch mobile phones while eating if we do it ourselves.

Order and Discipline

Only if parents are people who keep our things arranged in the correct places, will our children grow up having order and discipline.

Then we think, "From where did he learn this behavior?"

It is not from anywhere outside. It is from our lives, by looking at us. The child is observing and learning the mistakes that even we don't realize we are making.